Maybe they don’t understand the solution, maybe they don’t like the changes that you suggest or maybe it’s just that it’s your idea not theirs. But whatever the cause the cliche “you can take a horse to water, but not make it drink” is very true.
I have come across this problem more often in a work setting (although it definitely comes up a lot with children, or my children at least). I guess part of the resistance is due to lack of understanding, part a simple resistance to change and part vanity (the “its not my idea” part).
You can’t usually force people to take your advice, so how can you get around these barriers?
It’s important always to focus on what’s right for the business or people concerned. That means leaving your EGO out of it!
My preferred tactic is to try to “sow a seed” of my idea:- introduce the idea, but then stand back and wait for the idea to grow in the other person.
The idea needs the right conditions to grow – more information about why the problem occurs, what the effect is, reasons why the solution you have proposed is right.
It also needs time to germinate…
But in the end the plan is to work with the other person to help them recognise the value of the solution, and feel that they have an equal part in coming up with it so that the problem is solved one way or another.
Note to my clients: This is not inspired by any client past or present, it’s a musing from helping someone else solve an issue with their colleagues!